The Story of Cupcake and His Queen, as told by the Queen.
This is the Cupcake.
I’m writing this post today, August 12, 2013, but I’ll probably publish it much later.
Because…I had to wait for our story to ripen—a technique I learned in one of my Creative Writing classes. Haha!
Cupcake and I started out as teammates in K3, but have known of each other ever since we began playing disc—which was in 2007. We became close during New Year’s League 2012 when I first joined the team.
He was already the captain then. That time, he was also single. And he admits to having a crush on me (which I never really fully believed).
It took this conversation to semi-convince me.
Here’s a bigger version of the screenshot I sent to Baby Cheng.
Baby Cheng is Cupcake’s younger brother who also plays disc, also our teammate, and who I’m also good friends with. We were already friends before Cupcake and I became close because we were teammates in Ateneo with Em-j, another good friend.
It’s funny how the world works.
This is the Cupcake and Baby Cheng.
The first screenshot was taken on July of 2012 when Cupcake was lonely and was looking for a girl he could go for. At that time, his Mommy Jods (an older teammate who acts very motherly towards him) was already trying to set him up with me.
But he didn’t go for me. He went for a different girl instead, and in December 2012 she became his girlfriend.
All this time, Cupcake and I remained close. In fact, he became my closest friend.
A funny side story—in April 2012, I had to cover Bikram Yoga Manila for WhenInManila.com. That time, I had no idea that Cupcake worked as the Studio Manager of Bikram Yoga Manila. All I knew was that he was a Studio Manager at some yoga place. Turns out it was the yoga place I was asked to cover! It was a one-month thing, and I had to write two articles about it. (One after my first session, and one after my last.) So during my first session, naturally I had to contact the studio to inform them I was going to start. The receptionist gave me the e-mail of their Studio Manager, and I thought to myself, “Hey, cool. I have a friend with the exact same name.” So I e-mailed this Studio Manager, and here are the screenshots of our hilarious conversation.
Right after receiving this, Cupcake called me up and jokingly said it was nice to meet me.
Despite his initial judgments of me as a “conyo,” “elitist,” etc., we formed a bond unlike any other. It’s difficult to explain how special our friendship is. I don’t want to say that he understands and knows me unlike anyone else—because it sounds cliche. But that’s really how it is with us.
Just a preview of our endless (sometimes pointless) conversations.
There was a time that Cupcake, Baby Cheng and Em-j started a hashtag called #GretasEscortService, which I never fully understood. But basically, it was because the three of them (especially Cupcake) liked pairing me up with random guys.
We think alike too much. Our thoughts, views, opinions, the way we live life, and how we want to live it are too in sync most times that there are moments it’s hard to grasp the idea that there’s this other person who could very well be my twin. We’re like two sides of the same coin. The Gryffindor to my Slytherin.
We grew up in a similar environment. His family is just as tight-knit as mine. And I like how he was raised to be a driven, responsible, and very hardworking gentleman.
This is Cupcake’s awesome family.
And this is mine.
Another funny thing about the world… Cupcake’s dad was my brother’s (Ram) volleyball coach in grade school. And Baby Cheng and my other brother, Reno, played disc together for a while (with Em-j) in their high school. My Tito (my mom’s brother-in-law) used to be neighbors with Cupcake’s dad, and used to be close to Cupcake’s Titas. It’s funny to think that we could have already crossed paths before.
So anyway, after New Year’s League 2013, Cupcake talked to me and requested that I be his co-captain because of the potential he saw. He thought I could be a good leader both on and off the field, and I just needed the right push.
I hesitated, because I was afraid I wasn’t ready to be captain. But he convinced me that I was, and so my duties as K3’s co-captain began. I liked to joke around that I was really more of his secretary than a co-captain. That was actually how I introduced myself comically to his parents after he introduced me to them as his co-captain. He begs to differ.
It wasn’t just in disc that Cupcake pushed me to grow more as an individual. As a player, I know I learned a lot from him and from K3. I think I became smarter on the field, and I was able to use my strengths more effectively.
But most importantly, he pushed me to be better even outside of disc. After graduating from college with a degree in Creative Writing, I wasn’t really sure with what I wanted to do. I wanted to write books, that I knew. But I applied to various companies anyway and I got hired to be a Copywriter and Marketing Assistant at Crazy Monkeys Design Studio, where I usually only finished tasks assigned to me. When I was done, I’d go back to Tumbling, finishing my flavor-of-the-week TV series, or bugging my close friends online (including him). But because of Cupcake (who graduated from Communications Technology in Ateneo, and who’s specialty is Marketing), I learned more about the field and I grew to love it!
In March 2013, I was promoted to Brand Communications Manager where I helped formulate marketing campaigns and strategies. I took care of the branding of our clients and of the company. I learned to present pitches and the company’s services to prospective clients. I still did copywriting, too. After that, I found my drive and learned to take more initiative. I would go the extra mile just to make sure we created pitches that would wow our clients. I couldn’t have done it without the help of Tiki either (the Senior Copywriter), and the Sales and Marketing Director, Sir Ace, who I really admired—but the push definitely came from Cupcake himself.
The past week has been quite eventful as well, because I got two job offers that I really felt torn about. Cupcake helped and supported me all the way. In the end, I chose to work for a digital marketing firm in Bonifacio Global City, Snapworx Digital, Inc. My last day with Crazy Monkeys Design Studio is on Friday, and I start with the new company next Monday. I’ll save that for a different post.
Cupcake and I had gotten so close these past couple of years, he knew the history of my love life—from my very first MU in high school, up until the most recent one, Mr. Brightside. And always, he acted like the protective, brutally frank, older brother I never had.
Of course, I knew everything about him as well. I could easily read him like a book.
Around May 2013, Cupcake’s relationship became rocky—mainly because him and his girlfriend were growing apart. His closest friends all thought that the relationship had happened too fast and that maybe they rushed into things without really thinking. A month after trying to work things out, they broke up.
That was when the difficult days began because Cupcake and I started hanging out a lot more than usual. And weeks prior to the break up, I already admitted to just one person that I was developing feelings for him—I just didn’t want to do anything about it because he had a girlfriend.
After his break up and we started hanging out a lot more, Cupcake admitted to still having a crush on me. That it never really went away. He just couldn’t acknowledge the feelings before because of the circumstances. After constant communication and a little persuasion on his side (Haha!), we started going out.
My close friends began to notice, like Yelle…
We tried to be discreet about it because he had just come out of a relationship, and our closest teammates were concerned that people might perceive things in a different way. That was my worry, too. But if there’s one thought that’s kept me strong, it’s that the only opinions that matter are the people who matter to me.
And I’m grateful to have the most awesome and supportive friends.
Like the Marin.
And Hell Boy.
Both of whom have the same profile picture, I just realized.
At this point, I think Cupcake and I are past that difficult phase. And yeah, it doesn’t really matter what people think. We’re happy. We slowly broke the news to our families, our friends, and our team that he’s courting me now. It’s funny how most of them had the same reactions.
On Cupcake’s end (this was another conversation he had with his Mommy Jods)
I think one of the first people who called it was Baby Cheng—that we’d end up together one day because we had our own world.
I don’t really know what sparked me to write about this and post it here. It’s the first time I’ve ever done something this bold and raw. I guess I wanted to make something that will always bring me back to how it all began, and what we went through (what we’re still going through).
‘Coz they all happened with Cupcake. My best friend. My confidant. My co-captain. The Harvey to my Donna.
We bring out the best in each other. He admits that, too. Everything just fell into place naturally with us—both individually and as a team/couple.
We push each other to learn, and to grow, and to evolve into the best possible versions of ourselves. And this isn’t limited to just disc anymore. It goes way beyond that.
He’s seen me transform from a shy, clueless and quiet girl to a more assertive, responsible and driven individual. Thanks to him, I communicate better in general—especially with my mom.
And he’s transformed, too. I’ve witnessed it. He’s a lot more patient and a lot less angry. (Hehe!) And all of a sudden, he’s got a clearer picture of the direction he wants to take. The direction he’s headed.
Having Cupcake around makes going through difficulties and challenges worth it.
It’s a relief to know that I’m not alone. That I’ll never be alone anymore. I got so used to being on my own, that I mistook being independent as not needing anyone. That I only needed myself. And while that’s possible, it’s also very exhausting.
Cupcake made me realize that not only were we growing together as individuals, and that our growth complemented each other—we also drew strength and inspiration from one another.
Suddenly, facing trials isn’t as exhausting as it used to be.
Whenever I start to overthink about me and the Cupcake or about things, I remember our friendship. How solid it was. How close we really were. And how naturally this all just happened.
And I’m happy. I’m genuinely happy.
I have a lot of nicknames for Cupcake—each having its own explanation. There’s Big Fudge (as in Marshall’s nickname from How I Met Your Mother). There’s Fluffy Angel, from when I got drunk in Palawan and told Yelle, Jamel and Yaya that I was floating on Cloud 9 and that Cupcake was my angel. My Fluffy Angel. But my favorite is Cupcake, because not a lot of people know that he’s really a softie inside. He appears firm and stolid but really, he’s such a cupcake.
And I like that he is.
We’re not together yet. But we’re taking things one day at a time. We’ll get there eventually.
With Cupcake, I know we’ll get to where we want to be.
Update: OCTOBER 1, 2013
This post is already bleeding with cheesiness, but I decided to finally publish it today to surprise the Cupcake because it’s his birthday. So Cupcake, if you’re reading this: HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Update: JANUARY 19, 2014
This post first appeared on my Tumblr, but I decided that it should be here as well. The Cupcake and I are officially together now, since December 13, 2013 (Friday the 13th!). A date that really means a lot to both of us because of the “13.”